Life Contained founder, Jan Wencel, works with people who want to cross more...and more important things off their list on a daily basis.
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(Our first conversation formulas were delivering constructive criticism and responding to criticism. This third conversation also has a companion video.)
Personal productivity is lessened when we're trapped in a downward spiral of assuming the worst. Consider this formula to SNAP OUT OF IT! the next time you're in this fix:
a. Write down the main points of the story you're telling yourself, recognizing this is just a story, not facts.
b. Approach the main person in your story and say something like, "The story I'm telling myself is... Have I got that right?"
c. Allow the person to respond.
d. Continue the dialog, re-using the "The story I'm telling myself/hearing" phrase if necessary, until you're both clear on how to move forward productively.
By delineating stories from facts, you'll replace downward-spiral thinking with forward progress.
What phrases or techniques help you out of tight spots?
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